Wednesday, August 27, 2008

Please remember this family in your prayers

My son's new friend (I say new as they became friends about a year ago) and his brother were in a car accident Monday. My son's friend was the driver and his brother was killed. My son's friend thankfully only suffered a sprained ankle. How does something like this happen? The brother was only fourteen and attended high school for only four days. We have interstate 80 running along side our town connecting other towns to it. Of course we don't know all the facts but they somehow hit a parked semi. My husband and I can't wrap our brains around it-the sadness of it all. I think part of it is our son has just started driving and I say a little prayer every time he goes somewhere. This is every parents worst fear. I feel such pain and sadness for this family. How does a 16 year old deal with this the rest of his life? How do his friends who are just kids help him through this?

The wake is Thursday night and both of my children want to go. I realize friends will be really important right now but I don't think my kids realize the sadness and depth of grief this funeral will be. I want to shield them from this as I have tried to keep anything unpleasant from happening to them all their lives.

My husband and I talked in length to them both and other than that I feel helpless. I'm thinking of offering our home as a place they can bring their friends after the wake for dinner and together time as I think being with their friends may help start the healing process. As to any answers as to why? I have none. I can only be there to lend support and listen when they choose to share. Please pray for this family.


Brown-Eyes said...

As a mother who lost my only child in a car wreck, I can certainly sympathize with this family. My prayers are going upward for them and for your 2 sons as well. Bo

nikkicrumpet said...

Like you said...a parents WORSE nightmare. I am so sorry those families had to suffer such a tremendous loss. My prayers will be with them and their son who survived. He definitely will need the strength of his friends

Holly (Nickname) said...

How very sad....we don't know why. All we can do is rely on the fact that God is in control, and knows everything we are going through. He will comfort them in this time if they let Him. As he say's in His word-
Romans 8:28
"And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose."
Psalm 34:18
The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

I will lift all of you up in prayer. My heart aches for you...
xxxooo Ruth

bj said... prayers are for everyone involved...the parents, the son, YOUR sons, you and your husband..everyone shares in a loss like this.
I am so sorry for the family of this lost son.
I think your offer of your home for afterwards is very kind of you and I, too, think it is a good idea.
Again, I am so sorry.
love, bj

Rue said...

What do you say to something like this except that I'm so sorry. I'm praying for everyone involved to get through this. I think having everyone over is a very good idea and really kind of you.


Self Confessed Lamp Tramp said...

I'm so sorry, this is such a horrible sad event. My prayers are with all the families involved. Stay as stong as you can, you be needed!

Blissful Nikki said...

I lost two people in highschool in severe car accidents and one of my friends was completly mutelated in one.

As someone that has been in the same situation as your kids, I say let them go to the wake. Yes it will be sad and hard, but we cant sheild our kids forever. And I think its something they need to see so that when they get in the car, they remember that, and realize they cant drive all crazy that they need to focus on what they are doing.

I will keep this family in my prayers as well as your Son.

Laurie - Decorating Fanatic said...

Oh, I am at a loss for words...such a tragedy. I do remember in Jr. High a friend and her family (father, mother & brother) were in involved in an accident by a drunk driver. Only the father survived and of course the other driver, but i remember going to the funeral and it did leave such an impression on me and my first experience with death and to think it had happened to someone I knew and was my age. I still remember seeing the weeping father with his entire family gone. I think you having a get together AFTER the memorial is a wonderful idea. Kids are confused and just want to share their feelings with others and I think just having them all together to maybe process it, would be a good thing. I am so sorry for the family. I too will include them in my prayers.

Laurie - Decorating Fanatic said...

Hi - me again! I apologize if this comment seems inappropriate considering your post but I was on my way over to answer your question you left on my study and then I read about that family and I just forgot all about why I was on my way over here but I don't want to be rude and not answer you! I'm rambling, I know So I am just going to say that pillow you asked about was from Jcpenney a few weeks ago. It was on sale. Go look online when you get a chance.:)

French said...

I can't or don't want to even imagine's my worst prayers are with them during this the worst of times....Lisa

The Berry's Patch said...

What a terrible tragedy. I'm so sorry to hear that. Sounds like your doing the right thing and talking to your son. I have a daughter that is just starting to drive and it scares me.

Darlene said...

That is so sad and what a tragedy. I will be keeping everyone in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. Your son will need the strength of his friends and family, so opening your home to everyone is a great idea. I am so sorry for the loss.

KARIN said...

Sad, sad, sad. I hope that the community envelopes the 16-year-old and the family with love and support. They will need so much help to be able to endure the pain and guilt and sadness and loss. So sad. My heart goes out to them.

Buzzings of a Queen Bee! said...

Oh my goodness, that is is so scary! I will say a prayer for them right this minute. Thank you for stopping by my blog today, too!

Buffie said...

OMG! How horribly tragic! Of course I will pray for them!